This is the Key to Success

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Consistent daily effort – even if it is small, done each and every day, rain or shine, is the key to success.

Consider this example. You want to write a book. But you don’t ever seem to find time to write it, and keep postponing it for a day when you will have time. Or a time when you will not be so busy. That day mostly never comes. On the other hand, if you decide you will write 30 minutes everyday, no matter what happens, can you imagine what you would achieve in say a year? Makes sense?

This quote in the picture above made a ton of sense to me. I do exactly the opposite of this. I often work in fits and starts. When I am feeling well, everything is going smooth, I do a LOT of work, and feel unstoppable. And then I crash. So yes, things do go on…but not at a pace that I’d like to. I do want to be more efficient, and this made a lot of sense.

I was reading this story of the “20 Mile March” which explains this concept better. Here is what happened:

Two men – Roald Amundsen, and Robert Falcon Scott decided to lead their team of men to be the first to get to South Pole in October 1911. Amundsen started preparing much before – the research, the background preparations etc, while Scott did not.

Another major difference between the strategies of the two men was: Consistency of action. Read on…

Amundsen decided that  his team would cover 20 miles each day, rain or shine. When the weather was bad and they really did not want to go ahead, they STILL did their 20 miles a day. When the weather was great, and they could cover much more than 20 miles, they STILL stuck to only 20 miles a days, so as to not crash and burn. Their goal was to consistently get 20 miles in everyday…not one mile less, and not one mile more.

Scott on the other hand made his team cover a lot on good weather days, and then on bad weathers, they sat inside their tents for days doing nothing.

The result: Amundsen and team reached the South Pole on December 15th 1911, planted their flags, and went back to their regular lives. Scott’s team got there a month later, disappointed that they were not the first, and while going back, they all perished in a snowstorm. They could not survive because of fatigue and lack of background preparation.

Moral of the story: After you set your goal, work towards towards it daily, consistently. Not too much, not too little. Decide on what you can do everyday – rain or shine, and stick to it.

You know, I have ALL my respect for Scott and his team too. I am not looking down upon him, because they have taught us a a GREAT lesson on what not to do. I do believe that sometimes people take on work/experiences/actions that are seemingly “not right”, but through their actions, they end up teaching a big lesson to many others to follow. So all my respect to them for doing what they did.

Now the question is, when you just do NOT want to do what is needed sometimes, how do you motivate yourself? It is all very easy to say — Be Consistent. Easier said than done, isn’t it? So in my next blog post, I will do an EFT tapping video on how to motivate yourself to do what you need to do. And you can be sure I have been using it to be consistent myself. It works! :)

Look out for my next blog post: What to do when you are not feeling motivated?

Much love to you all!

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When you lose a beloved pet

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My baby – Billi

 

 

On 15th August 2015 my Billi died. Billi was my cat. My first cat. I got him in June-July 2002. He was only 7 weeks old. I had always had dogs for pets while growing up. My my last dog had to be euthanized because she was in way too much pain from cancer, I had promised never to get another pet. They die and leave you heart broken. That was in 1991.

Fast forward to 2002. I was now married, and had a 4 year old gorgeous daughter who seemed to love animals like I did. We pet sat my friend’s cat – Gracie. And that was my first experience with a cat. I realized how misunderstood cats were. Especially by “dog people”. I was a dog person. Then I expanded into an “animal person”, loving all animals, no matter who they were.

Gracie showed me how cats are very loving. They just have a very subtle way of showing their love. They just sit and gaze at you lovingly. You need to pay attention to them to really know what they are saying. They don’t jump all over you, but gently come and graze their soft delicate bodies about your legs. They give gentle head butts, or even a few delicate kisses. They purr and generate a feeling of “all is well”. You instantly calm down in the presence of a cat that loves you.

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This is Gracie – my friend’s cat.

When Gracie went back to her owner, I missed her a lot. That’s when my friend Laura asked me why I didn’t get a cat of my own. I said, “But they die and leave you heartbroken”. She said something that made complete sense to me. She said, “Yes they do. But think of it this way. You give a chance to an animal to have a good life”. And that sealed the deal.

Together Laura, I, and my daughter Natasha went to a cat rescue. Laura told me, “You don’t choose a cat. Cats choose you”. I went for an older cat who seemed to be meowing a lot at me, and reaching out to me through her cage. I thought of an older cat because almost everyone wants kittens and puppies. But when I sat in a room with the cat, she was absolutely not interested in me. She just wanted to be out.

I was naturally drawn towards a peacefully sleeping black and white kitten. He was absolutely beautiful!! But I tried to move away from him – after all he was a kitten, and a gorgeous one at that. Anyone would select him. So I tried to go to another cat, who didn’t want me either. Saw a little girl pick up the black and white kitten, and then put him down. I thought I should go touch him at least. So I went and picked him up. He opened his sleepy eyes, looked at me, and then settled into my arms comfortably as if he belonged there. I fell in love. Natasha too had wanted this one. So we picked him up, and he was our cat.

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We named him “Billi”. “Billi” in Hindi means “cat”. Billi could be a complete zen kitty, and then suddenly transform into spiderman in a moment. He and Natasha grew up together like Calvin and Hobbes. Inseparable. And they were inseparable even as Billi breathed his last on 15th August 2015.

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He was my child. My son. I loved him, and still love him beyond words can express. To me he was no less than my human child. He was not a “pet”. He was my child.

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Towards the end of his life he developed kidney disease, and got sick, and weak very quickly. I did all I could stubbornly to keep him alive. The daily subcutaneous fluids, his medicines, force feeding him his special diet, force feeding him water. Sometimes he seemed to get well, and get stronger, and then finally nothing seemed to help.

He used to sleep in my closet, and spent a lot of time in my closet. Natasha slept with him there at night, keeping an eye on him.

Finally that day, we gave him permission to go. He couldn’t walk anymore, he couldn’t see anymore. He was like a rag doll. I didn’t ever think I could tell him – it’s ok, you can go…don’t suffer. But I could not bear to see him suffer. Natasha held him in her arms and told him it was ok to go. I knew he was holding on just because of us. Because we were not ready to let go. After Natasha told him he could go, he did let go. She had him in her lap, and I and my son Ujjwal touched him, stroked him and gave him Reiki, and he breathed his last, leaving us heart broken.

This was just a day before he died. My daughter Natasha holding him.

This was just a day before he died. My daughter Natasha holding him.

I cannot bear to think that I cannot touch him anymore. Thankfully my son is still little, and still psychically open, and can see Billi’s spirit around us. That helps, but still hurts so much, it feels like someone has reached inside and wrenched my heart out.

Losing a pet is so painful…I think also because no human can love you the way an animal can. Your pet is the epitome of unconditional love. No matter what you do, they forgive you. No matter what you do, they love you. They see every lump, bump, wart on you, and don’t care at all about any imperfections. There are no complications in an animal’s love towards you. A human relationship, no matter how wonderful, is still full of complications. But with animals, at least their side of the love is pure, untainted. And losing a love like that rips your soul apart.

If you have lost a pet, I am sorry for you. I truly am. I understand what you are feeling.

What is helping me is looking through all of Billi’s pictures through these years, talking about him, watching his videos. I am working on creating a photo-story book with his pictures and stories about him. It will be for me, for Natasha. What is helping is the fact that my son Ujjwal can see Billi so clearly. I have talked to people who have crossed over, and see them in my mind. But I have never done animal communication, so I feel lost with losing Billi. What helps is, I am giving myself time and permission to grieve, to feel, and telling me it’s ok, he is here with me. And I know he is.

I have two more cats at home. And while looking for Billi’s pictures, I realized that I did not have too many pictures of him. I always took it for granted that Billi will always be around. His death made me realize once again, how short lived our pets are. I will make sure I will take pictures often. Of the animals, and the people in my life. One never knows when we will say bye to someone we love. While pictures cannot erase the pain of loss, they certainly soothe you with the beautiful memories.

Will I get another cat? Yes I will. I will do it to give a better life to another cat, and to be blessed by the kitty’s love. I will not do it to replace Billi. That will not be fair for my feelings for Billi, or for the new cat.

Am I scared of another pet dying and leaving me heart broken? Yes I am. But the love between me and Billi was so much more than the fear of death. I will love again.

 

All About the Crown Chakra

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PAST ARTICLES IN THE CHAKRA SERIES:

What are Chakras? I have written an overview of chakras as part 1 of this series: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritiual-psychic-development-what-are-chakras/
Root Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritualpsychic-development-all-about-the-root-chakra/
Sacral Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritualpsychic-development-all-about-the-sacral-chakra/
Solar Plexus Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-solar-plexus-chakra/
Heart Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-heart-chakra/
Throat Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-throat-chakra/
Third Eye Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/all-about-the-third-eye-chakra/

Where is the Crown chakra located? At the top of the head – the crown of the head. In Sanskrit, it is called the Sahasrara Chakra.

What is the color of the Crown chakra? It is Purple, Violet or White in color. Sometimes you even see it as Purple-Violet with White flashing in there. It is also represented by a thousand petalled Lotus.

What does the Crown Chakra chakra help with?

1. Doorway to our connection to Divinity, to God, our Higher Self, Higher Knowledge, our guides and angels.

2. It provides the connection to your subconscious and the superconscious mind.

3. It helps you feel and realize the One-ness with All.

4. It is the seat of enlightenment & inspiration.

5. It is associated with the brain, pituitary, and the pineal glands.

6. Associated with the hypothalamus and thalamus glands, and the cerebral cortex.

7. Helps with the feeling of Joy.

8. Connected with receiving Divine Guidance.

What problems might an imbalanced & blocked Crown chakra cause?

1. The feeling of disconnect from God, Divine Power, from everything. Loss of faith.

2. Depression, frustration.

3. Headaches, migraines.

4. Lack of direction in life.

5. Nervous system disorders.

6. Feeling like you are incomplete and lost in life.

7. Cropping up of many illnesses seemingly without any cause.

8. Mental disconnection, possibly dementia, schizophrenia, bipolar, Multiple personality disorder, Attention Deficit Disorder, Dyslexia, Parkinson’s Disease, Amnesia, delusions, addictions.

9. Epilepsy.

10. Auto-immnune disease.

11. Neurological disorders.

12. Light sensitivity.

13. A general lack of joy.

14. Multiple sclerosis, Paralysis.

15. Alzheimers.

16. Stress & worry.

17. Right eye problems.

18. Blocked intuition.

19. Brain problems like tumors, aneurysms.

20. Lethargy.

21. Chronic fatigue without any medical reasons.

What body parts & systems are associated with the Crown chakra? Brain, right eye, pituitary gland, pineal gland, hypothalamus, thalamus, nervous system.

How do you balance, unblock, heal & clear the Crown chakra? There are several things you can do to balance, unblock & heal this chakra.

1. Use crystals & gems like Clear Quartz, Herkimer Diamond, Diamonds, Amethyst, Beryl, Sugilite, Lavender Fluorite, White Fluorite, White Aventurine, Zircon, White Howlite, Tanzanite, Shiva Lingam, Purple Sapphire.

2. Wearing Purple, Violet or White clothes; Surrounding yourself with Purple/Violet/White decor.

3. Saying affirmations like: “I am ONE with ALL”, “I am powerfully Claircognizant”, “I receive Divine Guidance easily”, “I am connected to God and my Higher Self”.

4. Aromatherapy with essential oils like Jasmine, Lavender, Frankincense, Myrrh, Spikenard, Rose, Rosewood, Sanadalwood, Cedarwood.

5. Get Reiki healing, Reiki healing attunement, or get attuned to Reiki, and/or Kundalini Reiki.

6. Maintain a dream journal. Maintaining an “Idea journal” too is a great way to activate your crown chakra.

7. Read this article that has many suggestions & exercises: blog on claircognizance)

8. Doing yoga poses like Corpse Pose (Savasana), Half Lotus (Ardha Padmasana), Headstand (Salamba Sirhasana).

9. Burn white, purple or violet candles.

10. Focus and meditate on a Crown chakra mandala like this one below:

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11. Breathe in Purple/Violet/White light into your crown chakra. This is how you do it: Close your eyes, and when you breathe in, imagine a bright and beautiful Purple/Violet/White light entering your Crown chakra, and brightening and clearing it. Say your affirmations for this chakra along with this exercise.

12. I find visualization most effective for this purpose. Close your eyes, and imagine aPurple/Violet/White disc where your Crown chakra is.  Focus on it for a few seconds, and then start enlarging and brightening this disc. Enlarge it to extend out of your body and around it to a diameter of about 2 feet. Say in your mind, “My Crown chakra is now balanced, opened, and healed”. However, this needs to be done for all the 7 chakras, so they are all balanced. Doing this once or twice a day for all your 7 chakras keeps your chakras balanced, opened, unblocked, and helps you be physically, emotionally, energetically, and spiritually healthy. It also improves your psychic senses.

13. Focus at the top of your head.

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My radio show with Margaux Joy DeNador

I had the wonderful opportunity to be guest at Margaux Joy DeNador’s radio show: “Live Your Music”. I talk about my work, my life, my experience with depression, and angels. Here is the recording:

You can also hear it at Margaux’ radio show website: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/liveyourmusic/2015/05/06/live-your-music–margaux-joy-denador-and-guest-swati-nigam-050615

Margaux Joy DeNador is a life coach, author, and radio show host with 30 years experience in personal development and spiritual growth.

Margaux’s intentions with her coaching, her book, The Art of Living a Life You Love, and her radio show Live Your Music, are to help people all around the world love life, love what they do, love themselves, and use their creativity and inspiration to create a world where it is possible for everyone to enjoy the life they live.

For more about Margaux, her coaching, book, and radio show, please visit her website: www.margauxjoydenador.com.

All About The Third Eye Chakra

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PAST ARTICLES IN THE CHAKRA SERIES:

What are Chakras? I have written an overview of chakras as part 1 of this series: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritiual-psychic-development-what-are-chakras/
Root Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritualpsychic-development-all-about-the-root-chakra/
Sacral Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-spiritualpsychic-development-all-about-the-sacral-chakra/
Solar Plexus Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-solar-plexus-chakra/
Heart Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-heart-chakra/
Throat Chakra: http://thepurpleflower.com/friday-all-about-the-throat-chakra/

Where is the Third Eye chakra located? The Third Eye Chakra, also called the Ajna chakra in Sanskrit is located slightly above the middle of the eyebrows in the front of the body. And its back is at the back of the head, in the center.

What is the color of the Third Eye chakra? Indigo, dark blue (darker than the Throat chakra).

What does the Third Eye Chakra chakra help with? It governs the intuition, clairvoyance, wisdom, spiritual insight, visualization, imagination, and also the intellect. A healthy, opened and balanced third eye makes a person work with a balanced brain. That person will not be just “left-brained” or “right-brained”, but will be balanced, and equally good at both the qualities of the brain — the right and the left hemispheres.

1. It is connected to the Pituitary gland, Pineal gland, eyes, brain.

2. Wisdom.

3. Intuition.

4. Intelligence.

5. Clairvoyance.

6. Focus, concentration.

7. Dream recall.

8. Gift of Prophecy.

9. Imagination, creativity.

10. Visualization.

11. Clear thinking and logical reasoning power.

12. Mediumship skills.

13. Ability to communicate with Higher Divine Beings.

14. Self/Soul-Realization.

15. Ideas come up from here.

16. Manifestation powers.

17. Telepathy.

18. Physical health of your eyes and brain.

What problems might an imbalanced & blocked Third Eye chakra cause?

1. Problems in eyes, eyesight.

2. Pituitary gland issues.

3. Imbalanced life and focus.

4. Lack of focus and ability to concentrate.

5. Little or no psychic skills like clairvoyance, telepathy, intuition.

6. Headaches, especially migraines.

7. Nightmares.

8. Worrying a lot.

9. Forgetful & confused.

10. Delusional.

11. Thinking is not clear.

12. Very rigid beliefs, not spiritual or hardly.

13. Superstitious.

14. Lack of discipline.

15. Over sensitive.

16. Psychosomatic issues.

17. Escapism.

18. Lack of creativity.

19. Anger.

20. Depression.

21. Lack of insight.

22. Stress, tension.

23. Impulsive, jumping to conclusions.

24. Cannot see bigger picture in life.

What body parts & systems are associated with the Third Eye chakra? Pituitary gland, Pineal gland, eyes, brain.

How do you balance, unblock, heal & clear the Third Eye chakra? There are several things you can do to balance, unblock & heal this chakra.

1. Use crystals like Lapis Lazuli, Azurite, Blue Sapphire, Moldavite, Herkimer Diamonds, Indigo & Blue Kyanite, Amethyst, Sugilite, Turquoise, Purple Charoite, Aqua Aura, Blue Tourmaline.

2. Wear Indigo clothes, surrounding yourself with Indigo or dark Blue decor.

3. Saying affirmations like: “I am powerfully clairvoyant”, “I see Love everywhere”, “I am fearlessly clairvoyant”, “I see my guides and angels”.

4. Aromatherapy with essential oils like Clary Sage, Cinnamon, Sandalwood, Frankincense, Camphor, Rosemary, Eucalyptus, Hyacinth, Patchouli, Angelica Root, Marjoram.

5. Get Reiki healing, Reiki healing attunement, or get attuned to Reiki, and/or Kundalini Reiki.

6. Lie on the grass or somewhere comfortably, and look up at the sky and look at the clouds. See what shapes you see there. At night, sit or lie and watch the stars.

7. Visualize different things. Read this article that has many suggestions & exercises: http://thepurpleflower.com/tips-on-improving-clairvoyance-psychic-senses-series-3/

8. Doing yoga poses like Child Pose (Balasana), Trataka (Steady Gazing), Eagle Pose (Garudasana).

9. Pranayama (yogic breathing technique), especially Bhramari, Anulom Vilom, and Udgeet..

10. Focus and meditate on a Third Eye chakra mandala like this one below:

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11. Breathe in Indigo or Dark Blue light into your Third eye chakra. This is how you do it: Close your eyes, and when you breathe in, imagine a bright and beautiful Indigo light entering your Third Eye chakra, and brightening and clearing it. Say your affirmations for this chakra along with this exercise.

12. I find visualization most effective for this purpose. Close your eyes, and imagine an Indigo disc where your Third Eye chakra is.  Focus on it for a few seconds, and then start enlarging and brightening this disc so it covers even the back side of the chakra behind your head. Enlarge it to extend out of your body and around it to a diameter of about 2 feet. After that specifically focus on the front part of the third eye chakra which is located in the middle of your eyebrows, and see an Indigo wheel or circle there. Increase it in size, and brightness. The more your focus on this front part of the third eye, the more it will activate. Say in your mind, “My Third Eye chakra is now balanced, opened, and healed”. However, this needs to be done for all the 7 chakras, so they are all balanced. Doing this once or twice a day for all your 7 chakras keeps your chakras balanced, opened, unblocked, and helps you be physically, emotionally, energetically, and spiritually healthy. It also improves your psychic senses.

Next Friday I will write about the Crown Chakra.

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